Back then, I only attended church on Sundays because my other days were filled with homework and soccer or baseball practices.
The presence of this girl gave me an incentive to attend even though the group was put on by some of the less popular kids in school.
After reading his apology two months ago to several bloggers who have, like me, spent years blogging against the problems caused by the purity teachings promoted by Harris and others, I started listening with some optimism.
I was seriously, MARTIN: Joshua Harris has been reflecting a lot on the impact of his book.
It inspired both praise—from the likes of purity matriarch Elisabeth Elliot and Focus on the Family—and book-length rebuttals.
Harris was already a popular speaker at conferences for Christian home-schoolers and had started his own magazine, but the book’s influence quickly outpaced its modest built-in audience—it has sold more than 1.2 million copies to date. You weren’t just not having sex, you were adopting “a revolutionary pattern of living” that would make you both a better Christian and, someday, a better spouse.
became a phenomenon in conservative Christian circles.He’s heard from people who felt his writing taught them to be ashamed of their bodies and to feel guilty for having any sexual desires. One woman reached out and said the book was used against her like a weapon. HARRIS: I think I’m finally at a place where I’m really trying to listen to those voices.And I think it’s taken time for the consequences of the way that people applied the book and the way the book affected people to play out., written by Joshua Harris and first published in 1997, argued that traditional dating was “a training ground for divorce” because it puts people in the habit of quitting relationships when things get tough.Aimed at teens and twentysomethings, the book discouraged teen relationships and proposed that courtship, in which a couple moves purposefully toward marriage with their parents’ blessing and involvement, was a superior model to dating.